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All this week we will be highlighting #27BiStories from bisexual Advocate journalist Eliel Cruz with graphics by Trivo Studio 

Part 2 — #27BiStories: When Did You Come Out? What Was The Response Like?

Hoping to shine a light on the myths about the bisexual community — both in and out of lesbian, gay, transgender, and queer spaces — The Advocate has launched a four-part series written from interviews with 27 self-identified bisexuals, all of whom happen to be in relationships. Earlier this week, we asked our sources to confont the biggest misconceptions they face as bisexual people, and today, we’re turning our attention to the “coming out” stories that so often unite members of the LGBT community. 

Do those stories provide the same kind of “we’ve all been there” unity that many in the lesbian, gay, and transgender communities experience when sharing their own coming-outs? Or do bisexual people face ridicule and disbelief from the very people who claim to want to liberate others from the closet? Read on to find out. 

This is #27BiStories. 

Yes, yes, yes, and yes.

At least I knew to expect homophobia when I was in same-sex relationships, I was not prepared at all for the biphobia I’d experience later. Personally, I’ve found the dismissal, accusations, and vitriol I get from the queer side regarding my sexuality to be far, far more hurtful than the harassment and garbage thrown at me I’d get from straight men on the street when I’d walk hand-in-hand with my girlfriend.

You expect it from bigoted strangers, you don’t see it coming from your supposed “community”

This shit fucked me up when I was younger and to this day I am very nervous about queer events.

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As a person who is considering the possibility of being trans or possibly bi-gendered what bathrooms do you use is this confusing if there is someone inside?

Asked by Anonymous

hulklinging:

criedwolves:

i really wish there were more gender neutral bathrooms, but they’re fairly rare. i use the men’s room most of the time. if i feel unsafe using the men’s i’ll go for the women’s or family one if it’s available. i’m pretty sure the law here states that you can use the bathroom of the gender you identify with. i’m not sure how it is elsewhere though.

Hi! I work with queer youth and usually what we suggest when it comes to bathrooms is use which one you feel most comfortable and SAFE in. If you don’t feel safe in public washrooms, look around for single stall washrooms. That way you’re the only one in there, even if you might not fit society’s idea of what someone using that washroom should look like, there’s no in in there to take offence. Starbucks and a lot of smaller coffee shops have single stall washrooms. Sometimes they’re gendered, sometimes there aren’t. Handicapped single stall washrooms are also useful.

If there are no single stall washrooms around, and you’re out with friends, ask one of them to be your bathroom buddy. If they identify as the same gender as you, they can enter the washroom with you, but otherwise they can at least stand outside the washroom and call for help if something does happen.

It sucks to have to think about things like ‘will I be safe to pee here?’ but bathroom assaults and harassment are an unfortunate reality for trans and genderqueer people. Do what you can do to be safe, and if you know you’re gonna be spending a bit of time in an area, see if there’s any maps for that area so you can scope it out beforehand and find a washroom that works for you (for example, there are a few blogs that collect maps of universities with gender neutral and single stall washrooms circled or highlighted).

Good luck, anon!

Refuge Restrooms is a good resource for finding gender-neutral washrooms.

the-dude-sisco:

If there is one picture i post on here that i really wish y’all would reblog the fuck out of, it’s this one.

PLEASE. It could save many people that are under the ridiculous police state going on right now in Ferguson Missouri. Those people need our help.

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omgmeowhop:

Powerful

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becausebirds:

Goshawk testing its flying capabilities. It is shown flying through a circular opening, horizontal opening, vertical opening and a tunnel. [video]

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bless you for your comment on criedwolves's post and making him to actually consider everything that top surgery entails and actually being serious and realistic about it

Asked by Anonymous

I feel very strongly about trans healthcare and feel that gender-confirming surgeries (and hormones, etc.) should be readily available to trans people who need them. At the same time, safety and personal responsibility are incredibly important when making permanent changes to one’s body. Dysphoria can be absolute hell, but rushing headlong into medical transition without consideration for practical considerations isn’t wise. I don’t think it’s responsible to promote an attitude of ‘shoot first, ask questions later.’

hi! my name is oliver and i need your help! please read:

criedwolves:

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help me transition!!

i’m a transgender male who is struggling to raise money for top surgery. i’ve been trying to put aside money to go towards it, but it’s very hard to save up for it since i also need to save to go to school, pay bills, etc. 

i came out over a year ago to my friends, and only recently to my mother who isn’t exactly supportive. luckily i have many friends who support and love me and have really helped with my depression and social anxiety. before i came out i was a very shy, self-conscious person. i have gained a lot of confidence since then. but not even all the confidence in the world could change the dysphoria i have because of my chest.

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i’ve been binding for quite a while, even before i came out as trans. it’s very physically straining. in fact binding can cause serious health risks, including lung problems, back problems, decreased blood flow to the heart, blood clots, bruising, and even broken ribs. i wish i didn’t have to bind but i’m about a 34D.

i hate to ask for money, but even if it’s just an extra dollar you can spare makes a difference and it would mean so much to me.

please donate if you can

even if you can’t spare any change, please spread the word! thank you so much!!!!

I have some concerns based just on the information in this post.

  • Do you have a surgeon in mind?
  • Do you know what that surgeon requires in terms of documentation, etc.?
  • Do you know what kind of surgery you are likely to get?
  • Have you been seeing a therapist who can write you a letter of recommendation? I do not know of a surgeon who will operate without a letter from a therapist stating that they believe surgery to be the right option for you.
  • Have you considered getting your surgery covered by the MSP? Top surgery is covered under even the most basic health plan, and the process has been simplified and made less restrictive in recent years.
  • Will your home situation be safe if you start taking steps to medically transition? If your parents are not supportive, do you have any kind of recourse if things escalate or if you cannot stay at home any more? 
  • Do you have anyone who can go with you to take care of you post-op? You will not be able to take care of yourself for at least a week after surgery.
  • Have you factored in the cost of transportation and accommodation? When I went, airfare, taxis, buses, the hotel, and food cost over $2000.
  • Have you been cleared by your doctor as healthy enough to undergo surgery? The very least you need to do is make sure your body can withstand anaesthesia and surgery.

This is not a minor undertaking, and from just this post it doesn’t look like you have taken all the necessities into consideration. If you have taken care of those prerequisites, that is information that should be included in a post in which you ask for money.

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THIS IS THE BEST THING I HAVE EVER HEARD IN MY EXISTENCE

Women are sharing their comebacks to instances of everyday sexism

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dingdongno:

and it’s amazing

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Yes

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dominantlife:

Sometimes littles create the best words.

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Ouii. Perfect.

Not to be Homestuck trash but this sounds like Alternian slang

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I have always seen 'go see a therapist' to be 'safe' advice; you don't know what to do, but a therapist's whole purpose is to know what to do. Also, part of a therapist's job is determining if you even need a therapist. And besides, most people could do with seeing a therapist every now and then, even without actual mental health issues.

Asked by Anonymous

jumpingjacktrash:

the-real-seebs:

Yeah, turns out that cognitive debugging is pretty useful.

i wish getting a mental health checkup was as easy/accepted/common/covered-by-insurance as getting a physical health checkup.

the brain is the most important organ, but we treat it like it’s not even real. >:[

omgplants:

b-n-s-i:

雪柳

Tiny bonsai like this is literal plant magic. I swear.

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queentacotruck:

I find it funny how people refuse to acknowledge mental illness until they need an excuse to protect a white man

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